Congratulations you’re engaged!
Now the planning process starts, how exciting. One of the biggest decisions you have to make is who will be standing beside you at the alter (besides your soon to be husband). Your bride tribe has a lot of responsibilities, so you will want to ensure that you are surrounding yourself with people who are going to support you and make you feel your best on the day.
The magic number
Forget everything you’ve read and heard about having an even number of bridesmaids and groomsmen. While an even number looks great in the wedding party pictures, that doesn’t mean an odd number won’t look just as good (we personally think an odd number looks fabulous!) Post-covid weddings are veering further away from standard wedding traditions so an odd number in your wedding party is not a bad thing.
There are also plenty of ways to accommodate for an uneven number on your wedding day
- Walk-in threes
- One groomsman to two bridesmaids
- One bridesmaid to two groomsmen
- Walk-in pairs
If you are worried about how your wedding party will look at the ceremony, have your wedding party sit in the first row at your wedding and your maid of honour and best man stand next to you.
Planning a wedding is a big task (but so exciting!) So we can guarantee that you are going to turn to your bridal party for advice, opinions and help with the wedding planning process.
It’s good to consider the responsibilities you would expect your bridesmaids to uphold so you can also communicate these to them when you ‘pop the question’.
Would you expect your bridesmaids too;
- Plan the bridal shower
- Plan the bachelorette party
- Organizing the gift registry
- Attend any supplier or planning meetings before the wedding to give advice or opinions
- Assist with setups on the day of your wedding
- Monitor particular family members
- Get ready with you
- Be in charge of getting everyone to sign the guest book (if you want to have one)
The list of responsibilities can go on and on and it also differs with every bride! But it’s good to have a clear idea of what you will expect from everyone and communicate this to your bridesmaids so they don’t ‘overstep’ or ‘under deliver’.
We are seeing an emerging theme this year and it is all about breaking traditions at weddings! From having your wedding photos taken before your ceremony to walking down the aisle with both of your parents, brides are moving away from well-known traditions.
In line with breaking traditions, don’t be afraid to select people who will support you and make you feel your best on the day regardless of their gender. Do you have more guy friends than girls? Or a guy best friend who would be the perfect ‘bridesmaid/bride’s attendant’ or ‘man of honour’? Make them part of your bride tribe.
Top tip! Have your boy bestie walk down the aisle with one of your bridesmaids!
When it comes to selecting your bride tribe, you may be feeling some pressure to select your family members. If you are having a hard time trying to not hurt anyone’s feelings with your decision, consider still including them in the wedding without having them in the bridal party.
Here are a few ways that your family members can still be involved;
Invite them to all pre-wedding events
- Wedding dress shopping
- Bridal Shower
- Bachelorette Party
Including them in these important events will help them feel part of the process
- Ask some of your family members to be a witness to your certificate of marriage (anyone over the age of 18!)
This might be a good way to include your cousins or extended family on the wedding day
- Get them involved in the reception!
A great way to involve family is to ask them to speak at the reception! If you’re having an MC maybe coordinate for different members of your family to say a small part each. If they aren’t comfortable with public speaking ask them to write a short sentence about you and your fiancé’s relationship that the MC can share.
- Include the younger members of your family and ask them to be flower girls and ring bearers
An easy job for the younger kids in your family. Flower girls can be in charge of many things; throwing flower petals down the aisle or holding the train of your dress, whatever you feel more comfortable with them doing. You can have more than one ring bearer and they can hold a ring each!
Having your family’s kids involved is also a great way for them to feel involved in your wedding but not be part of the wedding party. It’s a win-win.
At the end of the day, this is your wedding. Who you decide to pick to be part of your bride tribe is totally up to you! There is no right or wrong answer for who you select!
But hopefully, we have made the decision-making process that little bit easier! And you are that one step closer to your dream day.
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